Question: Michael, I do so appreciate where you are coming from as a father and a sociobiologist…do you think that perhaps feminine biological power emerges as a response to dominance…as compensation, rather than enticing it? I see dominance as absence of power, absence of ability to communicate and collaborate, inability to see a larger context, inability to make room for the contributions of the many–rather myopic in nature and controlling–the need for control stems from fear–how do we identify our fears and make room for something better? A powerful person, whether masculine or feminine, empowers others…no doubt like you do for your daughter?
Answer: I am not a sociobiologist. It’s just a field of science I am interested in. And, no, our social relations did not come before sexual selection. We inherited human dimorphism – which largely explains sexual selection – through an evolutionary process that was going on millions of years before our species and its social relations emerged. I think we can identify the issue by looking at how privilege and responsibilities are distributed. So, a friend works all day and then watches the kids all night while her husband ‘unwinds’ with his friends. Identifying this issue and proposing the obvious solution seems to be best. He needs to share the burden of child rearing and equitably distribute ‘unwinding with the buds’ time. (What kills me is that when she does get to ‘unwind’ he still doesn’t watch the kids. He has her arrange for other family members do it!!!!!) In my home there is no ‘man of the house’ and responsibilities and privileges are equitably distributed.